Trying to Take Ownership Not Shame

One of the things discussed in therapy is the empowerment that comes with taking responsibility for our actions and choices. We shouldn't blame others for our predicament or try to absolve ourselves completely of our choices and actions.

As I'm learning more about my autism and ADHD (and the mental health challenges that have mutated from decades of working against my brain), I realize some actions or choices are much harder to make when you're wired a certain way. It isn't an excuse but rather an explanation.

Labelling those struggles is the first step. Labelling then, without shame or guilt, is crucial. Once that happens, you can start asking for help and therapy, and gaining the necessary steps, tools, and strategies to break the cycles that kept you on the Ferris Wheel of Sabotage and Shame.

This is a process, one I'm still working through. I recognize beating myself up each day or finding new ways of 'just work harder' isn't the answer. I am realizing I don't need to do it the same way others do it, and it is okay to admit I can't do it alone. As hard as that can be.

I'll continue to take you on this journey in the hope that it sheds a better understanding and helps others feel seen and maybe get the help they need, too.

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